Monday, September 24, 2012

This is just a sad sad thing.

I knew that as I lost weight, I would likely get more attention from men. I am sometimes surprised at when and where I get checked out. (like at the gym when I am gross and sweaty) Sometimes surprised at how often I get checked out. but in general, not surprised that is does happen more often now. I am pretty cute, so it's something I was prepared for, emotionally.

Something I was not prepared for, is how much better I am treated. By my fellow human beings in general. Now that I'm getting closer and closer to being "average" in size, I don't just get flirted with more often. I get treated like a person more often. Sales people at stores greet me, instead of pretending I'm not there. People hold the door for me when I walk into a building behind them. I get, overall, far better customer service EVERYWHERE I go. The difference is quite noticeable.

I think this is the saddest thing ever. I'm the same person I was 60 pounds ago. But apparently in the eyes of many people in our society, 60 pounds ago I was not a person at all. It kind of makes me ill.


  1. Someone on my fb list posted something similar recently regarding her weight loss experience and someone else countered with the argument that when you lose a significant amount of weight, you AREN'T exactly the same person you were pre weight loss. You think about yourself differently, carry yourself differently, and feel differently. This can affect the way other people view and treat you. I agree, that it's really gross (and unacceptable) how our society treats the overweight, but I do believe that some of the changes in attitude one sees in others after losing weight is filtered through the perceptions of the person who lost it.

  2. I posted about this on a message board and people pointed out that I'm also in a new relationship and I probably carry myself different, etc. And maybe that's a small factor. Maybe. I'm not entirely convinced. I am the kind of person who makes a concerted effort to be smiley and friendly when I am shopping, in restaurants, etc.